The Lie

Remember a few weeks ago when I said I was going to college.  Yeah, I haven't even thought about it since that day.  I guess now would be a good time to tell everyone that I'm not going to do that.  Well, I guess I shouldn't say that I'm definitely not going to go to college, as I think I really am ready to take classes, but once I thought about how much bullshit I will have to go through to get into a higher learning institution, I just sort of gave up on the idea.  Right now, it's not my priority, just the same as it's been for the past 10 years.  I just don't want to go to school.  Simple as that.

I'm dancing around the words a bit in that above sentence because I always want to keep the option open, even if it's only a mental thing, which gets you nowhere.  Right now I'm focused on the immediate future, which is a very real and unavoidable family life.  Bettering myself will come soon enough, I'm sure.  Right now, I need to focus on what I can do with the resources I have.  That probably means working shit jobs for low pay.  I obviously don't care all that much because when I weigh the options, I'll stick with the status quo, which has been the status quo for me for my entire adult life.  The only times I make a change is when I'm forced to, and no one is forcing me to go to college.  Therefore, I'll just continue to bitch and complain about things without actively trying to change the situation, because I'm an American, and that's what we do.  

I won't lie to you or me about this anymore until it's actually changing.  

Posts About Babies: Name It

Now, for those of you paying attention, the name of this blog post has already been used before, even though the auto-fill option on this computer did not recognize it. It's true, I was looking for a name for the "Posts About Babies" series, and landed on the working title anyway, but that's not the point. The point is that this is no repeat. This is all new! Now, if you weren't paying attention, than this explanation was actually not needed, and you can carry on with reading the actual post...

We are naming our baby girl Evelyn. I was totally convinced that this was the best choice, with the sweetest meaning we could come up with, but I wanted to run it by my Dad first. You see, when we were thinking of names, we were going through our parents and grandparents names to see if any were a good fit, in a way to honor our families. My grandmothers names were Betty and Evelyn. We both liked Evelyn, and thought it would make my dad happy, and who doesn't want to do that, anyway? Not that making my dad happy was the actual, main motive here, but we thought it would be an nice touch. Part of me thought that my mom would feel weird about it, as my parents are divorced, and, well, you know. I believe I've heard stories about how my grandmother (Evelyn) was not a big fan of my mother when they were dating/married or something. Therefore, calling her first grandchild a name of her former mother-in-law might be a little strange for her. The key part for me/her/us to remember is THIS IS NOT HER, AND THIS IS OUR CHILD. Yes, I just got capital on your ass, and yes I just got real defensive. Not sure exactly why, but nonetheless...

I wanted to run the name by my father as well, because, after all, this was his mothers name. I asked him on Thanksgiving day about how he would feel, and he said "Well, she hated that name..."

Ugh... Now what? I mean, I know we all called her Nina, but I figured that was just like, a grandma name, ya know? I guess I didn't realize there was more to it. So while I was formerly convinced that Evelyn was the name, no question, I was now, in fact, questioning it. There was no reason to question it, however, because this is my child. This is our child, me and my wife. She absolutely loved the name, and wasn't budging. So that's what we're going with. That's her name.

Mom, if you don't like it, just call her Evie. That's what I'm going to do most of the time anyway. You aren't my only parent. Sorry. I know you were "there" for me because I lived with you, and no one does more for me than you do and I love you very much. But I also love my father, and I had a grandmother whom I loved as well, even if I didn't know her all that well. Her name was Evelyn. My daughter's name is Evelyn. I love you, even if you hate my child's name, but won't actually say it. I understand.

A Quick Thanksgiving Wrap-up

I'll keep this short. Last time I was here, I talked about a part one, part two thing with coffee and beer. Well, I suck at blogging, apparently, and I never did the part two. Sorry, I'll write that up in the near future. Hang in there, "everybody"!

Anyway, I drove up to my moms in Michigan for a couple days, and it's great. Everyone needs to get away for a little while, and this was my chance. Thanksgiving is/was great, and I ate way too much food. It ain't Thanksgiving unless you're in pain. So that happened. Got to see our good friends Chris and Cindy and their baby. That ruled hard. Always nice to see some folks from back home. After dinner, played Scrabble and a family card game called Push, which is basically Phase 10, but only five phases...it's great.

Loads to talk about, but I believe you get the idea of what's up. I'll be driving back to Nashville this afternoon, right after the lunch feast of leftovers! That's about to happen, so with that, I'll leave it until tomorrow morning, since I'm a weekend blogger now, right?

Happy Thanksgiving errbody!!!

Family Friendly Fun

An exciting day in Nashville as the family has arrived! Now, this is not my blood family, but still family, nonetheless. They took the daunting drive from the great northern Upper Peninsula of Michigan to arrive here in Nashville just a few hours ago. Only took nearly 15 hours. This is why I can't go home that often, people. That drive is insane.

So Nate and Sam (mostly Nate) are on the couch playing Little Big Planet, Lydia is using Bethany's computer while Bethany watches is all. I'm on my puter at the dining room table.

The weather has turned from nice to beautiful, the grass is turning greener, the trees are blooming, and the sun is shining.

Yes, life in Nashville is pretty good right now. I always love having visitors. This week should be a lot of fun, in that family-fun kind of way. In that this-is-where-we-live kind of way.

I'm gonna think of fun topics to write about tomorrow. Stay tuned in the next bunch of days!